We Remember You, Kathryn
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I love you to the moon and back, Katie, and to the moon and back again. Over and over for forever.
ReplyDeleteRol and Sarah, I am so sorry for this loss. I have so many memories hanging out with you Dolks as family in the absence of our own families. Hanging out together, eating together, co leading our girl scouts, birding, sailing and camping are just some of the things that make the best memories together.
ReplyDeleteKatie sure made a beautiful bride, mother and friend to those who knew her and she will be missing sorely. I am so glad to have known her special spirit but it is her smile that will always come to mind upon hearing her name.
Love to you all ... Sally you have been a great big sister all these years. You are going to shine brighter now in Katie's memory.
We were just talking about our scouting days, the weekend before, when we were in Jemez. Pack in, and pack out, cause Girl Scouts always leave it better than we found.
DeleteGirl Scouts never forget: being in nature, being prepared for nature or how to pee in nature ...
DeleteThis is such an unforeseen tragedy. I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you, your family, Katy's precious children and all those who knew her and loved her. I send my deepest condolences. Much love to you all.
ReplyDeleteThank you Casey. I appreciate your kind words.
DeleteThanks so much, Casey. Your words warm my heart.
DeleteI love Katy and she has been an extremely important presence in my life. Katy was not only beautiful, strong, supportive, understanding, hilarious, extremely intelligent but she was also, a wonderful mother, friend, and woman.
ReplyDeleteIt’s hard for me to accept the fact that I can’t pick up the phone and ft her for two hours like we’ve done a million times, or that I won’t ever hear her laugh again. The only thing I take solace in is knowing that she isn’t in pain anymore. Katy wouldn’t want us to be sad, although that seems like an impossible concept, but that was her; always reaching for the impossible.
Katy will ALWAYS be very dear to my heart and I hope she knew how much I loved and cherished our friendship.
My love and support goes out to her children and family in time of need. My many many condolences and prayers are with you.
Thank you.
~S~
Words cannot express. Still crying.
ReplyDeleteI promise you all. I would not be who I am today without this person. This was one of my bestfriends for the last few years. from runnin vegas, to knowing george lucas + being connected to prince (and combo from breaking bad), surviving being fucking buried alive in the desert(of which you taught me how to survive)..then to raising a family and leaving a legacyy of fucking awesome memories behind. it brings me to tears knowing you are gone. just happy you passed in peace. you were one of the good ones and kicked so much ass. I am forever grateful for all the good times shared and memories behind all of the gifts (your surfboard, teardrop camper, custom wetsuit, your love, and therapy when I was down.) I will keep forever and cherish always. basically crying writing this but fuck. x.x Thank you for showing me the artist Aurora. It has helped a lot.
-Your badass roman soldier.-
Roman, my sister talked about you so fondly. I’m glad you have her camper to remember her by! I also hope to meet you some day. Xoxo Sally
DeleteDear Dolk & Pupuhi families, I am so sorry for your heavy hearts. Katie was a force of life. I love this memorial of love family and friends have given us. Her playlist will be a fav of mine forever. I've known Katie since she was 4 or 5. Even then she was a bright star. One of my fondest thoughts were with my dog Bud. My ex, Mark, would tell the Dolk and Orchard girls that he was so smart he could order pizza delivery. While Katie, Sally, Diana, and Jenny knew this couldn't be true they always asked if he would order a pizza pie with hope in their eyes. And of course Bud was so big they would try to ride him.
ReplyDeleteI always giggle when I think of the time Rol brought them to the 'bring your kids to work' day. A coworker , Greg, leaned down to them and said, "Hi, my name is Greg and I work with your daddy." If memory serves me , they both said, "Doh"! for they knew they were there on 'bring your kids to work' day. To this day Greg and I laugh at their brilliance!
The last time I saw Katie was in the Oakland Airport. I noticed a beautiful woman in bright yellow walking towards the counter. It turned out to be Katie. She was so happy and bright. I know she is on all of your shoulders bringing the sunshine and love. She will be there to pick you up when you cannot breathe or your hearts are heavy. All my love, Tracy
Love you Tracy. I remember the magic that was Bud the dog. Xoxo
DeleteAhhh, Thanks for that flash back to the past Tracy. What a sweet memory.
ReplyDeleteKanamu and Kianna and family, our hearts are with all of you and I am sending many hugs to you. I am here if there is anything you need. I am so thankful to have met Kathryn and seen her lovely spirit. Lani
ReplyDeleteThe world was so fortunate to have: a beautiful talented daughter, a loving and supportive caring sister, an adoring spouse and husband to share in your exciting journey and an incredible, fantastic, engaging mom.
ReplyDeleteyou will always be with us and never forgotten,
What a difference and impact you made on everyone you meet in your lifetime.
Just to want to say, I love you Kat and I'll miss you forever! What a beautiful service that was, we all had the same things to say about you that you were the brightest star we knew, you always just poured out your love on us even when you were running on empty, you would always get me to see the better side of things, you would say No Dre think again, open your heart this time, we lived together we laughed together we cried together, you were in my life for probably about 14yrs we were different people when we met and we both have grown I'm happy I was able to see you happy the last 8 yrs and the 6 before that is when we spent the most time I will always value that, you were a big influence to me in such bright ways, your smile just glowed even if you didn't have you eye brows on yet I still loved you any way, I'm truly gonna miss your late night calls day time calls and all the things that we said we were supposed to do like get the girls together for play dates and go shopping, and smoke together
ReplyDeleteThank you for being my friend thank you kanamu for giving her a life she deserved, thank you Sally for being her big sister she loved you very much, thank you to Cyrus and Kianna you two kept her going she was so proud of you guys, thank you maurice and all her close friends, now having met a few of you I can see every one of you had influenced her as well, I can see all of you shine thru her
You have left a big hole in my heart that will never be filled again but I will always keep you close and try remember what you would say, you say Do It Dre.... And also kat thanks for new blooms in my garden recently and just so you know that rose bush was pink when I planted but it does look much Red instead lol ❤️��
This is beautiful. 😭💗Thank you for sharing this!
DeleteThank you everyone for loving us and holding us in your hearts as we navigate the days, weeks, months and even years to come. It is going to be a rough road, and I want you to know your prayers are needed still, and we are so grateful for them.
ReplyDeleteKati's service was a beautiful tribute to her, and I think she would have been proud. It was so amazing to see how many people showed up for her, and your support for us was felt. Thank you, for everyone who helped make it come together as perfectly as it did. Thank you Kati for the stupid church pews, that you got months before you died....as furniture for your house. I laughed at you when I saw them, and I am still laughing, but in awe that you saw fit to arrange seating for your own memorial service.
I also wanted to post the poem I read at the service, lest it get buried in my pile of journals.
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My Sister Was...
Spiritual and lyrical, whimsical and wise. With sweet, graceful persuasion, she won’t let you close your eyes.
Pushing limits, right to the edge, before the masses spoke. Winning with the underdogs, she put the W in Woke.
Her gypsy heart, not of this world, bigger than the likes of us. Tenacious and so gracious. Be more like her. We must.
Curious and creative. Candid, caring and kind. In constant search of knowledge, in search of peace of mind.
A mover and a shaker, nothing in this world could break her. Even if she was my anchor, if you must, Dear God, please take her.
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Love and hugs
I can hear her pushing those words thru you I love it thank you again
ReplyDeleteIt’s been over a year. I expected to be a little less wounded by now. This time last year, I was so focused on making sure everyone else got what they needed to mourn. Now, I’m not tending to anyone. It isn’t as useful as the latter, despite it being an attempt to tend to my wounds. I guess helping others *is* what feels best. A blessing and a curse I suppose. The day of, this year, the one year mark - I don’t want to call it an anniversary…as it it is not the day I choose to celebrate her. I don’t even want to call it a deathiversary. I opt to not make up a new word, though I typically jump at the opportunity to do so. I don’t want to give it a name. It was quite unceremonious, besides my company and our location: Kianna, Kanamu, Oliver, Zach and myself in Santa Cruz. Kanamu was in his room quite sick, we aren’t totally unsure it wasn’t Kati’s presence…perhaps some sympathy pain? I sat (feeling quite numb) and watched the kids play in the beach side pool all day, looking over Cowells Beach where her ashes are spread. We couldn’t make it to the beach that day because I stubbed my big toe so hard it lifted the nail right off my toe. Fu$&ing ouch, and I didn’t want to have to clean sand out of it later, also cause ouch. Again, I can’t help but wonder if that was Kati, telling me to stay off her beach. She was mad, and I don’t blame her. Besides all that, the day was uneventful. I think my boys caught on to what day it was, but I am almost sure Kianna had no idea. I felt guilty for not doing more, but I also just didn’t have the heart.
ReplyDeleteSo, here we are, I don’t know about everyone else, but I really don’t feel anymore resolved in this. I know it’s real, but there are still times when I forget for a brief second, the I feel a weird matrix dimensional pull vibe dragging me back into my reality. It’s like dreaming while awake.
I am sure time will heal, eventually. Perhaps I need to stop running to heal. Who knows 🤷🏼♀️ Grief is so strange. I wish it came with instructions.
Peace, Ahava love and comfort coming for you.
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